I'm going to go ahead and say it... I'm a Facebook junkie. Whew!! There it is... It's out there. I said it. Not that the people that I know and love didn't realize this already. It's funny, actually. I only set up a Facebook account because a friend of mine sent the invite. At the time, I was all into the My Space thing, which apparently has gone the way of the dinosaur. So anyway, I set up this Facebook page and never touched it again for over a year. I guess I got bored one day and logged in, and I ended up actually updating my information, and adding a profile pic and such. I remember a friend writing on my wall, "Look who's finally pimping out their Facebook page!" It's been down hill since then...
I kept the My Space page for some time, but I finally just deleted the whole thing because I just never logged in to it any more. Besides, it seemed like no one was using it. They were all on Facebook. So I am now officially a Facebook junkie! I love to log in and see what my friends are doing, see their pictures, and just catch up. It's true, most of my Facebook friends aren't people that I see on a regular basis, but at some point in my life, I have called them friend. Just because I haven't seen them in a while doesn't mean they aren't my friend still, right? I've found friends of mine from middle school that I have wondered about over the years, but we had lost touch. I've loved finding them and getting the chance to find out where they are now, how they are doing, and seeing their families. It's cool to get to hear from a friend that you last saw in seventh grade, and see her husband and children. I've also been able to keep in touch with all of Forrest's teachers, which I LOVE!! I've loved ALL of his teachers and I want to be able to keep up with them and let them know how he is doing. Plus, I like to know more about them in their personal lives. They are much more than just his teacher...
I even set up a Facebook page for my husband, and I've always laughed because for someone that NEVER logs in to his page, he has something like 90 friends now... But I think I've finally converted him. He has finally realized that he can log in and talk with his buddies that he never sees about fishing (or whatever it is that guys talk about), and (SHOCK of all SHOCKS!) he admitted that he actually LIKES Facebook now! He has even POSTED on his WALL!!! (**WARNING - the world might be coming to an end...) He was actually asking me how to blog last night... Okay, now I KNOW the world is coming to an end!!!
Now in talking with friends and family, I've heard several of them say that they have "rules" when it comes to Facebook. It usually involves not friending co-workers, family, neighbors, etc, but I haven't applied any of those rules to my page. I'll accept a friend request from people that I know (I do have the whole thing restricted because hey, there are pictures of my kids on there...), regardless of whether it is a co-worker or neighbor or whatnot. Unfortunately, there have been times when this has come back to bite me...
Sadly, there have been a few things here lately that have bothered me about Facebook. I probably shouldn't care, but I'm bugged all the same. A while back, one of my neighbors had a party at a cabin in Gatlinburg for her husband. The girl across the street is probably her best friend, and obviously, she and her family were invited. No big deal, right? I'm usually invited to these neighborhood functions, but I didn't really think a thing about it. I didn't know her that well, so whatever. But the Monday after the Gatlinburg weekend, the news feed blew up with ALL of my neighbor's pics of the cabin in Gatlinburg. ALL of them were there! ALL of them... We were the ONLY ones that weren't invited. Not that we would have ended up going, but that really hurt my feelings. I know it probably shouldn't have, but it did, and none of them even noticed. In fact, as I write this, there is a party planned for this weekend, and once again, I haven't been invited. *sigh*

Then there is the matter of getting deleted... I can get VERY political on my Facebook page. Now I don't go and post stuff on YOUR page, so if you don't agree with me, then don't look at my page. You don't have to delete me! Heck, you can even hide me from the news feed if it bugs you, but why would you delete me? I could see if I posted stuff that you disagreed with on YOUR page, but I don't, so WHY did you delete me?? The other day, I actually emailed someone that deleted me and flat out asked why she did. I mean really, if I have offended you, I would like to know about it... The last time we had any correspondence on Facebook was just after she got engaged, and I was congratulating her and telling her that she would make such a beautiful bride. Is there something offensive in saying that?? So anyway, she emailed me back to tell me that while we were "buds in high school," we hadn't talked in a while, so she was just de-cluttering her friends list to make things more simple for her. Ummmmm, okay... So no, I haven't seen her in a while, but how are we GOING to talk if she deletes me from her friends list? I can only surmise that it has to do with my political views, and she must disagree. That reasoning just made no sense...
There was also the time that I sent a friend request to a friend's mom. Her daughter and I were close friends (along with two other girls) in high school, and we all even went on vacation together after graduation. So I guess she didn't realize that when you accept a friend request that it sends an email notification. She accepted my request, and then DELETED me! (I guess she didn't realize you can just hit ignore...) I didn't really think a whole lot about it at the time. I used to go by my middle name, and now that I'm married, I've got a different last name. Plus, let's face it, I'm old and I don't look the same as I did in high school... So I friended her again... But this time, I included a message telling her who I am and blah blah... and she did it AGAIN!! Now I get that she's a big ol' democrat, but really... She's probably 60-something years old... Can we all be adults here??
Then there is my sister... I'm still not sure what's up with that one... Yes, she's also a big ol' democrat, but she is my SISTER! That would be FAMILY!! She has either (a) deleted her entire Facebook profile, or (b) BLOCKED me altogether... I seldom see her, even though she lives in town, but she's still my sister and I love her. Again, I'm left to think that if I've been blocked, it's because of my politics... *sigh*
So I guess I'm currently having a love/hate relationship with Facebook. There are so many good things about it, but I've been noticing the bad things too. I've had to block all of my co-workers from viewing my wall posts (that earned me a delete too). Should I be this sensitive? Probably not, but I am. One thing is certain, I'm learning a lot about my friends, whether it's GOOD, BAD, or UGLY...